Dr Maymunah Kadiri, Medical Director of Pinnacle Medical Services, has advised married women to have regular sex with their husbands in order to prevent depression and gain happiness.
Depression is a common mental disorder that causes people to experience depressed moods, loss of interest or pleasure, feelings of guilt or low self-worth, disturbed sleep or appetite, low energy, and poor concentration.
Dr Kadiri who is also a psychiatrist gave the advice in an interview with the Nigeria News Agency in Lagos.
According to her, sex was not just to nourish a woman’s body but was also beneficial to her mental health saying, “As women, there is need for us to make our spouses our best friends if we want to be mentally healthy.”
She disclosed that studies have shown that women who have more active sex and in long term relationships were less likely to be depressed than women who went without sex and hence, more sex was important and essential being a remedy to curing women from having persistent headaches.
“Low sexual drive, which leads to depression, should be looked into. A woman can be depressed when that sexual drive that she used to have is no more there. Frequent active sex can play good roles toward women’s sense of well being and quality of life”, Dr Kadiri said.
She explained that sex was not just for procreation and to have children, adding that it could create bonding, good companionship and sound sleep and urged women dealing with depression to frequently indulge in sex while boosting their self-esteem.
She also advised women who are over-weight to also involve in active sex, saying doing so will boost endorphins which are happy hormones and that the happy hormones will make them lose some calories as well as sleep better.
”Orgasms trigger the release of endorphins which are happy hormones secreted by the brain that act as effective painkillers,’’ she articulated.
She added that sex was not only beneficial to men but, especially to women because it was capable of freeing them from stress.
Sex, she said, accordingly was meant for married ones only but a lot of people don’t associate sex with God but rather associate it with Satan and darkness as if sex was not holy stressing that the Holy Bible was explicit when it comes to sex.
“Sex is holy within marriage, and there is no prescribed style. Nowhere in the Holy Bible does it say that a particular position is the only sexual style. Not discussing sex in a relationship leads to divorce. I have counselled women who’ve complained: ‘my husband treats me as if I were his sister’. There was one who told me: ‘I am tired of getting sex fortnightly, like a salary’. I told her she was lucky to be getting sex fortnightly, since some wives only get it on big days, like elections and Holidays”, she stated.
Many husbands leave their wives to seek sexual pleasures in Hillbrow. Have you ever asked yourself what those women have that you don’t? Wives have become very frigid and even sleep with their panties. If you’re a married woman, you should sleep naked and let your bum touch your husband.
Dr Kadiri indicated that currently, you find men going out of their way to get a glimpse of a vagina, page through magazines and even go to lingerie departments in stores hoping to see what’s hidden under panties because their wives hide it from them.
She said marriage was about being free with your body in front of your partner adding, “A woman should parade naked and do some modelling to tempt her husband. There are many married women who don’t know what their husband’s penises look like. She only feels it when he enters her. They’ve never touched it, let alone seen it because the husband switches off the lights before undressing. A penis is a wife’s toy – she is supposed to play with it.”
She blamed couples for not making time for sex and complaining about being tired after a day’s work. “You find many couples who’ve been sexually starved for years. God created sex for procreation and also for pleasure. You can’t marry and not have a good time in bed.”